Month: December 2025

  • 2025 Ramblings (aka: The Year I Shed My Skin Like a Dramatic Lizard)

    If 2025 had a résumé, it would list intense transformation under “core competencies.” This was the year many of us finally looked at our patterns straight in the face, gained enough emotional XP to level up, unlocked new stages we didn’t ask for, and shed so much metaphorical skin we could’ve built an entirely new person out of it. Honestly, a craft project.

    The fire didn’t just warm us, it burned through illusions, fog, and denial. It cracked shells. It forced rebirth. In my case, it burned down the masks so thoroughly that the version of me I’d locked away years ago finally walked out, blinking in the light, asking for snacks and freedom. I let her out. I chose her. I fell in love with who I am. Best jailbreak I’ve ever staged.

    Which brings me to the million-dollar question we all ask at the end of a year like this: How do we not repeat the same patterns like it’s a cursed Netflix rewatch? How do we know what to leave behind in 2025, and what’s just showing up wearing a fake mustache pretending to be new?

    When something familiar appears again, is it because we haven’t learned the lesson… or because this time we’re being offered the option to simply not engage? Or is it that we are attracting similar situations because we are stuck in the same frequency? How do we know what’s aligned, and what’s not?

    Because, of course, toward the end of the year, few patterns I know all too well resurfaced. Same vibes. Slightly different fonts. More complicated than last time, because they always are. Personal growth apparently comes with upgraded difficulty levels.

    Cue indecisive me, collecting data like a scientist in a lab coat, trying to make a “fully informed decision.” Which is hilarious, because if I’m being honest, I already made the choice a long time ago. Maybe this isn’t a crossroads. Maybe it’s just background noise. Maybe nothing is that deep. Maybe the core lesson has always been the same: choose yourself unapologetically, stop abandoning yourself to fit into situations not meant for you, and trust (annoyingly, patiently) that things are working for you, even when it feels like the universe is freelancing.

    Time will tell. Time. That funny little illusion we all pretend is real while it calmly laughs in non-linear.

    We spend our lives surfing waves of illusion and call it reality. Maybe in 2026, more layers of reality become accessible. Maybe more people stop being afraid of the unknown. Which would make sense, we are living in the age of information, curiosity, and the “wait, that actually makes sense.”

    So here’s to the lessons of 2025. This transformative “9” year. May we leave behind the patterns that truly need to go, and stop labeling everything as “DO NOT REPEAT.” Not all repetition is bad. History itself is repetitive. Humanity is repetitive. Of course our small lives contain echoes. In a world where everything is frequency, we’ll keep attracting similar situations if we keep broadcasting the same signal.

    The trick isn’t forcing new outcomes. It’s shifting the frequency.

    To attract what we want, we first have to know how it feels. Learn it. Tune into it. Practice holding it without panic.

    To attract what’s aligned? That’s the scenic route. Balance. Self-trust. Letting go of control. Responding instead of forcing. Being present. Listening inward instead of outsourcing direction.

    I’m choosing alignment. I’m choosing balance.

    Happy 2026. Let’s try a gentler level this time.

  • Cosmic Observations: Fire, Earth, and Things in Between

    Lately my Instagram feed is basically a full-blown compatibility seminar: fire x earth signs, moon vs. sun interactions, complementary vs. matching moon phases… you know, all the cosmic tea. Naturally, I checked. Of course I checked. Because curiosity is a sign of evolution, or maybe just a Virgo thing, let’s not overthink. 

    And let’s not forget what my mother said when I tried blaming the stars for my indecisive, quick-to-change-my-mind, sometimes-called-moody behavior. I jokingly told her, “Clearly, you gave birth to me at the wrong time. I should have been a Libra or a Gemini.” Without missing a beat, she looked me dead in the eye and said, “Let’s not blame the signs for this. You are clearly… well… you.” Which in mom terms, she is calling me special. Classic mom wisdom, straight to the point.

    From experience, here’s what I’ve noticed: when someone’s moon is in your sun, or vice versa, it’s vibe central. Think: instant “I feel really comfortable around you” energy. Soul-snack-level vibes. Strong Wi-Fi connection, chilling at a cozy lounge with a hot beverage where conversations keep flowing, and laughter is very much present where everyone can be themselves without pretending.

    Then I checked my parents’ charts. Twins, basically. And me? I once had a thing with someone whose Placidus chart twinned mine to the angles. Intensity, my friends. Top-tier, fireworks-in-your-chest, transformative intensity. Not during… but during the aftermath. Because apparently the universe likes to hand you the emotional fire extinguisher after it’s already set things ablaze.

    And then there’s moon phase compatibility. Someone with complementary moon phases? Easy. Flowy. Vibey. Like bending water together. Fluent. Words just come out and the other gets them. No subtitles needed.

    Matching moon phases, though? Now that’s a whole other level of intensity. Like, “I didn’t sign up for this, but apparently somethings need to break open again for more growth” type intense. Not through trauma or melodrama, but via these focused, cleansing fires. Uncomfortable. Transformative. You’d cry, you’d laugh, you’d merge, you’d question your life choices… and somehow, something entirely new would emerge. A whole new era. A path you can’t walk in fear. Kind of like bending fire, if we’re sticking with Avatar metaphors. Only… I’d need a master to show me how.

    Speaking of Avatar: I’d be a water bender, naturally, with some air-bending tendencies, a green thumb, and some hidden fire skills. Because yes, I spent the majority of my life hiding my fire. Typical.

    Speaking of elements… there are hand types. Yes, apparently our hand shapes represent elements. I have fire hands. Chemistry sparks with people who have earth hands, or at least, one of the only two people I’ve ever had real chemistry with happen to have earth hands. Fire and earth. 

    As for air or water hands? Nope. Can’t vibe. It’s like we’re from different planets. They drift through my life like background characters in a movie I didn’t even know I was directing, and we do not understand each other. 

    And then there are all the connections we aren’t even nudged to investigate. How many more coincidences (wink, wink) and synchronicities are floating around, waiting for us to notice? Do we find them because we actively look, or are we nudged to look because, deep down, we already know we’d find them? Cosmic little game of peek-a-boo, basically.

    Humans are endlessly fascinating. Human connections? Cosmic-level interesting. Astrological charts? Fun for data analysis and sipping tea on a family vacation in a rural area with not that much to do, but let’s not pretend a birth date predicts everything. Planetary movements influence us, sure, but there is no mystical Wi-Fi that writes your life script. (Although if there were, I’d want an upgrade to premium.)

    So yes, check the charts. Observe. Laugh. Note patterns. But if you vibe with someone supposedly “incompatible”? Congratulations, you’re officially a cosmic rebel. And maybe, just maybe, the planets are cheering for you anyway.

  • Don’t Run From Yourself (You’ll Catch Up Anyway)

    At some point in life, you realize there is no such thing as “the future.” Not in the dramatic psychic hotline sense, but in the mildly inconvenient, existential way. Everything is apparently happening at once, and time is just… how we keep ourselves from panicking.

    Which means the thing you’ve been running toward (or away from) has probably been right there the whole time. Some of us feel things before reality as we perceive catches up. We get called “psychic.” No. We are just tuned into time differently than the average person.

    What we like to label intuition, telepathy, or how did I know that? isn’t a superpower. It’s not witchcraft. It’s not even particularly sexy. It’s just… being tuned in. To yourself. To others you resonate to. To your patterns. To that quiet inner signal that’s been trying to get your attention while you were busy refreshing your phone and questioning every decision you’ve ever made.

    It’s not mind-reading. It’s just frequency recognition. Once you know how something feels: a person, a city, a situation, you can sense it from miles away. Like a radio station. Some frequencies fade. Some don’t. Some stay stubbornly on air like a song you didn’t ask Spotify to play but now somehow know all the lyrics to.

    Have I mastered turning every frequency off? Absolutely not. But I have mastered turning my back. And I mastered not getting swayed away with all the coincidences and reminders that still manage to find me everyday. I mastered not giving an emotional response, other than cracking up once in a while when they get too ridiculous. And honestly, that’s an underrated life skill.  

    The more connected you are to yourself, the less random life feels. Patterns start revealing themselves. Yours. Theirs. Life’s. And yes, awareness can feel a little boring. Like being the only sober person at a party. But it’s also what keeps you from replaying the same emotional storyline with a different cast and a slightly worse ending.

    That’s one of the points life on Earth tries teaching. Not running from yourself. Not outsourcing your direction to fate, tarot cards, exes, or the universe’s customer service department, which in my humble opinion, doesn’t exist the way we wish it would.

    Because when you’re connected to you, you already know where you’re going. And suddenly the people and opportunities that appear make sense. Suddenly you’re less busy forcing outcomes and more comfortable letting timing do its thing.

    Once you start noticing how interconnected everything is: people, places, timing, moods, you notice something else too: alignment is contagious. When you’re aligned with yourself, aligned people show up. Aligned opportunities knock. Aligned chaos waits politely instead of kicking the door in.

    Funny how that works. The moment I stopped obsessing over destiny and started trusting myself (while handing the truly uncontrollable bits over to God), life aligned in ways I never could’ve planned. I wanted the “go with the flow” last year. I got it. Just not in the aesthetic, Pinterest-board way I imagined.

    Turns out clarity doesn’t always arrive loudly. It comes with fires that burn down the masks, storms that blow out the dead skin away, and then it just you on the shoulder and says, Relax. You’ve been on the right path longer than you think. 

  • Vision Board (or: How the Universe Reads Fine Print)

    Last year, I made a vision board. You know, one of those very intentional, aesthetically curated collages where you casually tell the universe, “No pressure, but this please.” It was stacked: alpine scenery, river swims, Bern, mindful girl energy, techno nights, outdoorsy hobbies, sunshine, maybe even a puppy. Very balanced. Very “I have my life together” coded.

    I didn’t actually hang it on the wall though. Not because I didn’t believe in it, more because I didn’t feel like explaining my long-term soul vision to short-term situations. Which, in hindsight, was already a clue. And frankly, none of those situations lasted long enough to earn a tour of my inner world anyway back in the day when I still gave dating in Italy a shot. It was pointless when the type of guy I know I want belongs to a whole other geography, and linguistic background. 

    Here’s the plot twist: almost everything on that board happened. Plus some surprises that were aligned with what was on the board. Even the puppy my parents ended up adopting because she accidentally ended up on their doorstep turned out to be black and white instead of black and brown, but we have a new puppy. Not magically overnight, not in a neat linear order, but unmistakably so. Except for one thing. The career part. That one sat there looking… vague. Half-hearted. Like a placeholder slide in a presentation you swear you’ll fix later.

    Because while I apparently know exactly what I want in love, lifestyle, geography, energy, rhythm, scenery, temperature, and background soundtrack… But career-wise? Big blinking question mark. Creative fog. “We’ll circle back.”

    Which got me thinking: maybe vision boards aren’t magic wish lists. Maybe they’re mirrors. They don’t create clarity, they respond to it.

    When you’re clear, life moves. When you’re vague, life shrugs and says, “Cool, I’ll improvise, and show you what you want.”

    We don’t attract opportunities by being perfect. We attract them by being honest about what we want. And when we don’t know yet, choosing to figure it out might actually be the first real decision. That choice alone seems to flip a switch. Suddenly paths appear. Detours make sense. Timing reveals itself retroactively.

    The irony? The board was never the point. Clarity was. Alignment was. Frequency was.

    I wasn’t attracting aligned opportunities in areas where I was undecided, and that wasn’t punishment, it was feedback.

    So maybe the real takeaway isn’t “make a better vision board,” but “get clearer with yourself.” And if you’re not there yet, at least be clear about wanting clarity. This little game called life seems to respect that.

    As for the rest? It tends to work itself out. Just not always in the font you expected.

    And honestly, where would the fun be if it did? 

  • (Almost) White Christmas

    Yesterday, the air smelled like snow. You know that smell, the kind that sneaks up on you, taps you on the shoulder, and whispers, “Put your expectations down, but trust me anyway.” I didn’t get my hopes up. I never do. I just knew. And sure enough, it snowed. The first snow of the season here.

    Apparently, I don’t just travel with actual baggage; I bring weather systems. Missed the November snow in Bern, caught it back home in Bulgaria. Timing has never been my strongest skill, but when it hits, it hits.

    I’m reunited with my parents and our dogs for Christmas and New Year’s, sitting in my parents’ new handmade sunroom while snow falls politely outside. Courtesy of my father, who can build actual structures with his hands. Which explains… A lot. Apparently this is why I have a soft spot for men who can build things. Especially out of wood. Especially if they don’t need an instruction manual. I, too, have woodworking plans. Turns out it’s genetic. The blueprint was there all along.

    Now, let’s be honest. I’d choose Alpine cold over this humid, windy chaos any day. This is the kind of cold that seeps into your bones uninvited. And yet, yes, I’m still considering a swim in the Black Sea, despite it feeling like minus seven degrees outside. Limits? Never met her. My idea of fun doesn’t need refinement, just a matching level of insanity and other humans who hear “freezing water” and think, “Perfect.” Especially if that’s a mutually agreed first-date plan. 

    After Christmas dinner, and an ambitious amount of mulled wine at apéro, I slept for twelve uninterrupted hours. Twelve. A coma, really. A well-earned one after a week of sleep deprivation and questionable decisions.

    And then… the dreams.

    Three different men starred in them. One by one. Like a rotating cast. I feel dirty, in the best possible way. Real me is on a wholesome family holiday. Dream me, however, had a packed social calendar, dream dates. One was the regular. The recurring character. Always there, stopped complaining about it, there is no point. This time particularly committed to reminding me what I was allegedly missing out on. The other two were new. And new is always delightful. I was eventually pulled back to reality by our puppy launching himself into bed like a furry alarm clock with zero respect for narrative closure. 

    And somewhere between the snow, the wine, the dreams, and the dog hair, it hit me how far I’ve come since September. Back then, I was still mad at him. Actively. Professionally. Now? Life is too good to bother. Plus, I closed the loop. Finally. Turns out some things don’t need force, just timing. And a little snowfall for dramatic effect.

    I’m out. I’m free. Free to live and enjoy the absolute crap out of myself, like a graduate freshly released into the world, slightly unhinged, deeply grateful, and fully convinced that the best part might still be ahead.

    And honestly? I’ll take that kind of white Christmas any year. Light and fluffy. Good vibes, BBQ meats with a side of potato salad with homemade French Dressing. 

  • The Art of Letting Yourself Go

    Life is too short to care about what other people think of you. I know, because I used to care professionally. Olympic-level caring. I was uptight, perfectionist, deeply allergic to rejection. I curated myself like a museum exhibit: composed, appropriate, quietly impressive. No sudden movements. No visible weirdness. God forbid anyone realized I was… different.

    Then something snapped. Or softened. Or maybe I just got tired.

    Now I smile at strangers in the street. (Yes, this works in Bern. No, do not try this in Milano unless you want to be emotionally audited.) I carry walnuts in my pockets to feed crows and pigeons like some sort of forest witch on an urban commute. I headbang back at a random guy blasting metal at a red light because obviously that was a moment of mutual understanding. I pick up pine tree branches I find on the sidewalk like they’re treasure. I compliment people just because. No agenda. No flirting. No follow-up questionnaire.

    Living in Italy (especially Milano) kind of scrambled my internal GPS. Everything felt loud, performative, sharp-edged. Bern quietly rebooted me to factory settings. Friendly faces. Soft interactions. Compliments that don’t automatically translate to “so when are we sleeping together?” A city that understands the delicate art of balance: nature, people, and chill coexisting without trying too hard.

    And here’s the thing: life is way too short to micromanage how you’re perceived. Whether people “get” you or not. Be honest: do you fully understand yourself every day? Exactly. So why outsource your self-worth?

    It doesn’t matter if someone thinks you’re weird. It doesn’t matter if you make grammar mistakes, mispronounce words in languages that aren’t your own, or occasionally butcher your own language. Nobody is keeping score. Life is not that serious. We’re all enrolled in the same school, taking wildly different courses, on wildly different schedules. Sometimes we share a class. Sometimes we sit next to each other for a while. Why not enjoy recess like we’re still in high school: laughing too loud, being a little ridiculous, not taking ourselves so damn seriously?

    We don’t know how much time we have. Life can change in a split second. One wave, one wrong turn, one unexpected moment. So enjoy it. Even when the waves slam you. Even when your board snaps in half. You crawl back to shore, get a new one, and paddle out again.

    Life is breezy. Life is peachy. Life is actually pretty great. Especially when you stop overthinking it and start living like you’re allowed to exist exactly as you are. 

  • More Than a Place 

    I’m stargazing in Bern. On a clear night. The moon is nowhere to be found, and the Vegas-level light pollution from the Sternenmarkt isn’t enough to block the stars (fortunately). The sky is clear. I have an Aare Bier in one hand and then a Müntschi in the other. I’m standing on the terrace I dreamt about back in May. Yes, dreams do come true. Shooting stars and wishes. Life is good.

    On the walk back, I listen to “Weisch Du no?” on repeat, drifting through streets that feel like home, but technically aren’t. Not yet. Still, my eyes are sparkling in that unmistakable way that only happens when you’re in love. And yes, I’m fully aware I’m saying this about a city. Irrational? Sure. But love has never exactly been a fan of logic.

    Everything looks sharper here. The trees. The pavement. The lights. Suddenly Halunke’s line “Dr Neonliechthimu isch niene so schön wi hie” hits a little too close to the heart. Love really might be one of the strongest forces on earth, and somehow, I’m experiencing it… geographically. Wrapped in familiar scents. Held by bricks, stones, leaves. Everything feels alive. The city feels alive. Alive in a way that makes me want to find its invisible zipper, unzip it, and climb right inside.

    It’s not that Bern is magical: even though, fine, it kind of is. It’s that it has something for me – I suppose. Something I’m only just beginning to understand. And I’m falling for it more with each trip, deliberately, savoring every step of the discovery.

    So here’s my unsolicited conclusion: if you’re lucky enough to find a place on earth that your soul, mind, and body all agree on: go. If you feel that quiet, persistent pull toward a place, listen to it. Trust your gut. It’s worth it. I promise.

  • Looking Down on the Circuit Board

    Have you ever had the sneaking suspicion that your future self has been quietly running the show this whole time?

    We’re taught to romanticize fate. Destiny. As if life were some external force dangling clues in front of us, daring us to interpret them correctly. We wait for signs. We wait for permission. But what if the guidance we’re looking for isn’t coming from out there at all?

    What if “future you” is already whispering in your ear, because everything is happening at once, and we’re just stuck experiencing it like a linear Netflix episode instead of the full series drop on multiple screens watching it al at once?

    Picture a motherboard.

    Time isn’t something that passes. It’s the board itself. You’re not the board; you’re the signal moving across it. Your choices light up different pathways. Free will is which traces activate. Intuition? Signal feedback from other nodes. Past, present, future, all online simultaneously.

    Some routes glow. Some stay dark. Maybe somewhere, in another version of you, those dormant paths are fully powered. The whole system already exists: you’re just experiencing which circuits youenergize through thought, attention, and choice.  Perception and decisions. 

    Zoom out far enough and sure, the mainframe is the universe. Obviously. But here’s the thing: when we feel like we have no free will, it’s usually because we’ve hardwired ourselves too tightly into the mainframe: outsourcing our knowing instead of listening inward.

    I’m not saying free will is an illusion. I’m saying it’s more internal than we think.

    The more we trust ourselves, the more we stay in our bodies, the more present our energy becomes, the louder the signal gets. When the analytical mind finally shuts up for five minutes, something else comes online. Something quieter. Older. Smarter.

    That’s when time stops feeling linear. That’s when you feel close to creation. To unity. To the universe.

    And to yourself.

    I couldn’t help but wonder… In a world where the answers were never ahead of us, but already humming beneath our feet, waiting for us to notice which path lights up next, how can we maximize the input? 

  • Is it self-sabotage… or sacred protection?

    the confusing art of leaving before it breaks you

    I’ve come to believe that anxious vs. avoidant attachment isn’t just trauma, it’s sacred protection. It’s your nervous system remembering what your mind keeps trying to forget. It’s your soul screaming “we’ve been here before.”

    And here’s what no one tells you when you start “doing the work”:

    The right relationship won’t give you butterflies.
    It’ll give you peace.
    It won’t light up your trauma.
    It’ll let your nervous system exhale.
    It won’t feel like a high, it’ll feel like coming down.

    And when you’re used to love feeling like survival, calm can feel boring.
    Untriggered can feel empty.
    Unchaotic can feel wrong.
    But that’s not sabotage.
    That’s just your body learning what safety actually feels like.

    Still, triggers are real. And important.
    Not because they mean someone’s wrong for you, but because they highlight the places where you still need healing.
    A trigger is just a neon sign that says “here’s where you’ve been hurt.”
    It’s not always a warning to run, sometimes it’s an invitation to stay… and finally do the work.
    To stay with yourself.
    To hold the wound.
    To remind that younger version of you that they’re safe now.

    Healing isn’t about avoiding all discomfort.
    It’s learning to sit with it, without losing yourself in it.

    So how do you know when you’re running from love, or being rerouted away from a repeat of your wounds?

    Check who’s driving.
    Is it your inner child, afraid they’re too much to be loved?
    Is it your hyper-independent ego, terrified of being seen?
    Or is it your higher self, the version of you that’s healed enough to know peace when she sees it?

    Because not everyone who feels like love is actually safe.
    And not everyone who feels safe is boring.

    So maybe the next time you feel the urge to leave something good, pause.
    Ask: Is this a red flag… or just a new color I haven’t learned to trust yet?

  • Allergic to Consequences

    Three Negronis in, I’m blasting techno on my balance board, fully allergic to consequences, and temporarily evolving into the most unhinged version of myself to date. Snusless. Dopamine-starved. Adrenaline-deprived. I literally climbed a random parking-lot wall just to feel something. I could see the fire in my own eyes and honestly? I understood what some say about my gaze. Looking at my own eyes in the mirror gave me chills like I was looking into twin crystal balls.

    Nobody talks enough about the withdrawal symptoms of “the life as we knew it” before everything went… south. Or sideways. Or into whatever spiritual demolition site this is. Becoming emotionally numb was not on my vision board. I miss flirting. I miss fire. I miss dopamine. I miss adrenaline. I miss calculated chaos. The highs. The chase. The spark.

    I feel retired at 27. Twenty-seven. If Earth is a school and this is my one body rental, then yeah, this is inevitably YOLO, isn’t it? It’s not that deep. It’s not that serious. We’re all just running experiments in human form. Send the text. Drink the drink.

    A car almost hit me again today while skating to work. I’ve genuinely lost count how many near-death guest appearances I’ve had since moving to Milano. My entire timeline could flip in two seconds. Again. And when life is that fragile, what exactly are we pretending is so serious?

    I don’t want to feel retired at 27. I want to live. I literally have a “live life to the fullest” tattoo from when I was 16 on my rib. Yes, it’s cringe. But teenage me was onto something.

    I want to bomb downhill on bikes. Ride waves. Be a passenger princess in a speeding car or on a sports motorcycle. I want to boulder, climb peaks, dive deep, hold my breath till I feel high, swim in freezing water, skate downhill with questionable survival odds. Listen to loud music, I want to flirt like tomorrow is a suggestion. Meet people whose names I’ll forget, or remember forever.

    I want to be alive. Feel alive. Be present. Follow my heart. My gut. The madness. Wherever life leads.

    YOLO, right?