Month: October 2025

  • On Running (but not like that)

    I’ve always loved running. Not the actual 5K-with-perfect-hair kind of running (although, yes, that too), but the escapist kind. Mentally. Emotionally. Spiritually. The Olympic-level sport of “nope-ing” out of whatever I don’t want to deal with. Ever since I was a kid, I could always find an exit sign. And honestly? It was more fun that way.

    Now my Instagram, right on cue, because algorithm telepathy is real, is feeding me endless posts about “the only way out is through.”

    Cool. Cute. Inspirational. Also: rude.

    You can tell that to the part of me that’s currently hyperventilating at the mere idea of not running. The part that knows there’s nowhere to go but still wants to book a one-way ticket to Hawaii under a fake name.

    I’ve tried every escape I was allowed to try. Life itself blocked the rest. I’ve literally done the emotional equivalent of pushing every emergency exit door and pulling every fire alarm. Still here. Still me. Still not escaped.

    But facing what I need to face? That feels like losing control. Like shedding all the parts of me I’ve been clinging to like old band t-shirts that don’t fit anymore but still “spark joy.” I’m not ready. And yet I know life will keep throwing bricks of truth at my head until I stop ducking.

    So, yeah, apparently I do have a choice: delay it or face it. Am I thrilled to discover that disappearing for three years to travel the world like some kind of Eat-Pray-Ghost is not an actual option? Absolutely not.

    So cheers to whoever came up with “the only way out is through.” I know it wasn’t just one person. It’s clearly the universal tagline of everyone who’s ever had a shred of self-awareness and realized they can’t out-jog their own life.

  • Grief: The Skateboard, the Shopping Cart, and the Almost-Said “I Love Yous”

    Grief is weird. One minute you’re ugly-crying over your dog who just crossed the rainbow bridge, the next you’re staring at a €20 voucher wondering if it’s a sign from the universe to impulse-buy another skateboard. (Spoiler: it was only enough for a massage gun. Bank account saved. For now.)

    We lost our sweet doggo – the happiest little soul – and even though I knew it was coming, apparently nobody is ever ready. I still think he’s going to come bounding around the corner. But grief doesn’t just arrive with tears. It also arrives with random bursts of “YOLO.” Like ignoring your doctor’s orders and hopping on your board with a busted hip because apparently the Kübler-Ross stages of grief now include skateboarding.

    And then there’s the other kind of impulsivity. The kind where you suddenly want to call your parents and say “I love you” like some soft-focus movie montage. But the words stick in your throat as if you’re trying to confess a crime instead of basic human affection. We literally talk every day. They know I love them. Why is it so hard to say it out loud?

    It got me thinking: why do I only use “sweetie,” “dear,” and “honey” when I’m being condescending? Why do I find people who are emotionally constipated with words of affirmation so irresistible? (Probably because we’re both sitting there thinking “feelings are cringe” while simultaneously bursting with them.)

    I thought I’d grown out of that. But then I remembered: it took me nine months with one person to choke out “I love you as a person.” Not “I’m in love with you.” Not “I love-love you.” Just “I love you as a person.” It wasn’t even romantic. It was pure, universal, unconditional love. It was also about as emotionally risky as streaking through a board meeting.

    So here I am. One special dog’s unexpected passing away triggered a full-scale existential audit: an almost-skateboard purchase, an almost-confession to my family, and a Spotify wormhole that made me feel like I was watching the last five years of my life as a movie.

    And maybe that’s the weirdest part about grief: it’s not just sadness. It’s a mirror. It shows you the shopping carts you fill to patch the hole in your heart, the words you almost say, and the love are learning how to give without drowning the other person in it but somehow still feel.